Co-Parenting Series Pt. 2 -Boundaries Over Bitterness

Co-Parenting Day 2

Boundaries Over Bitterness

Healthy boundaries are hard to have when there is hurt involved, but even harder when there’s trauma and fear involved.

Hurt from failed relationships, promises, and commitments can cause a haze over your ability to make or create boundaries that are about building healthy bridges instead of shutting others out from stubbornness, pain, and heartbreak. 💔

I believe I suffered from a lack of healthy boundaries out of fear of rocking the boat or impacting my kids in a way I had never been impacted. I grew up with both parents in a healthy environment, and the thought of leaving my kids in a position I couldn’t relate to—but only empathize with—was crushing. Boundaries felt like a dose of reality I just couldn’t fathom and one I was fearful to explain.

So, we traveled to sports events together and continued to spend holidays together in a way that still allowed us to look like a family. The only problem was, “if it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, it’s a duck.” So when I decided to move on, it opened up the same wound twice. It essentially poured salt into a wound that was only bandaged.

Divorce or breakups need separation to heal, and they need prayer and often therapy for there to be growth. The Word reminds us:

• “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” – Proverbs 4:23
• “Let all that you do be done in love.” – 1 Corinthians 16:14
• “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens.” – Ecclesiastes 3:1
• “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” – Psalm 34:18

These scriptures remind me that boundaries are not about bitterness, but about protection, healing, and peace. I pray that this is helpful and that all in all there is a surrender to God about it all rather sweet surrender or painful... It's worth the redemption that God is waiting to bring. 

Welcome to the journey through lost conversations where healing starts.....

Be Blessed & Whole, we are all in this together!